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The Cure to Diseased Hearts

This is part 3 in a series of 3 posts under the category of:

انواع القلوب فى القرآن الكريم The Types of Hearts in the Noble Quran

There are a few simple points which can help you to check and cure your heart:

1 – Purify your intention, and a lot of these diseases will go away by the mercy of Allaah.

I would like to put only one question here for discussion: I want to do it, and you want to do it, so how do we make our intentions pure?

There are 4 ways of it:

First: If when someone praises you, you feel good, and when someone insults you, you feel bad or angry then know that there is a problem with your intention.

‘Adi ibn Arta’ said, “When one of the Companions of the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) was praised, he said in supplication to Allah:

اللهم لا تؤاخذني بما يقولون ، واجعلني خيرًا مما يظنون واغفر لي ما لا يعلمون

O Allah! Do not call me to account for what they say and forgive me for what they have no knowledge of – Allaahumma laa tu’aakhithnee bimaa yaqooloona, waghfir lee maa laa ya’lamoona

Reference: Al-Bukhari, Al-’Adabul-Mufrad no. 761. See Al-Albani, Sahih Al-’Adabul-Mufrad (no. 585). The wording is slightly different to the above  and is perhaps taken from another narration. Allaahu ‘Alam.

And whoever said it said the truth:

If people would know how sinful I am they would not even want to say Salam to me, they wouldn’t even want to sit near me. But O Allaah it is your Rahmah (mercy) that you have hidden my sins.

It is narrated in Saheeh Muslim from Miqdaad (may Allah be pleased with him) that a man began to praise ‘Uthmaan (may Allah be pleased with him) so Miqdaad proceeded (towards him) and went down on his knees and began to throw the gravel on his face. So, ‘Uthmaan (may Allah be pleased with him) said: ‘What’s the matter with you?’ So, he said: Indeed, the Messenger of Allah (sallAllaahu alaihi wa sallam) said:

“When you see those who praise people (to their faces), then throw dirt in their faces.”

Muslim in Az-Zuhd War-Raqaaiq…(Vol.4, No.3002, page 2297)

A person who loves to be praised can never be pious in his life.

 

Second: Do a good deed and forget it.

A sincere person hides his good deeds just like he hides his sins.

Remember this principle: In the worldly life, everything that has a witness is valued. But in the sight of Allaah, the most valuable deeds are the ones whom no one has witnessed on earth.

 

Third: Give the best of your things in charity.

Today when we want to gather charity, we have to give all the proofs to a person to convince him. People have forgotten that whoever spends in charity his wealth does not decrease, but only increases!

But the Sahabah were on a different mindset.

Imam Ahmad reported that Anas bin Malik said, “Abu Talhah had more property than any other among the Ansar in Al-Madinah, and the most beloved of his property to him was Bayruha’ garden, which was in front of the (Messenger’s) Masjid. Sometimes, Allah’s Messenger used to go to the garden and drink its fresh water.” Anas added, “When these verses were revealed:

لَن تَنَالُوا الْبِرَّ حَتَّىٰ تُنفِقُوا مِمَّا تُحِبُّونَ

(By no means shall you attain Al-Birr unless You spend of that which you love,)

Abu Talhah said, “O Allah’s Messenger! Allah says,

(By no means shall you attain Al-Birr, unless you spend of that which you love;) No doubt, Bayruha’ garden is the most beloved of all my property to me. So I want to give it in charity in Allah’s cause, and I expect its reward and compensation from Allah. O Allah’s Messenger! Spend it where Allah makes you think is feasible.” On that, Allah’s Messenger said,

(Well-done! It is profitable property, it is profitable property. I have heard what you have said, and I think it would be proper if you gave it to your kith and kin.)

Abu Talhah said, `I will do so, O Allah’s Messenger.’ Then Abu Talhah distributed that garden among his relatives and cousins.”

This Hadith was recorded in the Two Sahihs.

 

Fourth: While working for a cause, if a person keeps working whether someone praises him or scolds him then that is a sign of sincerity. But if he works only when he is praised and sits down when he is scolded then he is not doing it with sincerity.

May Allaah allow us all to purify our intentions and make them sincerely for Him.

 

2 – Start respecting the scholars if you want your heart to be cured.

Ibn Al-Qayyim Rahimahullaah used to say that the religion is taught by 2 things: The mosque and the person in the mosque.

The day you get disgusted by the mosque or the scholar, then that day you have lost your Emaan.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said a beautiful thing (mentioned in Sahih Bukhari/Muslim) that out of the 7 people who will get the shade of Allaah’s Throne on the Day of Judgment, one is he whose heart is attached to the mosque.

What does this mean? This means that when he prays one prayer he is constantly waiting for the next one. This Hadith is about a person who stays outside the mosque. So what about those who dedicate their whole day to the mosque and stay in it all the time?

In fact I would like to say, if a person takes even a single step towards a scholar Allaah can grant him Jannah for this. You must be thinking this is a big claim? It is narrated in Sahih Al-Jami’ that a person did 99 murders. He then went to a priest asking if he could be forgiven. The priest said no there is no forgiveness for you. So he killed the priest as well. Then he went to a pious person who told him that yes you can be forgiven but for future you must leave this place and go to another town where there are pious people of Allaah. He was on his way when he passed away. Allaah sent angels to take his soul. The angels started arguing whether he would be an inhabitant of Heaven or Hell. Allaah sent another angel to measure the distance from where he had started to where he was going. If he was closer to his destination he would be forgiven but if he was closer to the starting point, he will go to Hell. Allaah ordered the earth to shrink and upon measuring he was only a span (approximately 9 inches) closer to the pious people and was forgiven because of this (ONLY a step!).

So until you have a good relation with the true scholars, you can never remove the diseases from your heart.

 

3 – If you can’t guard your tongue, you cannot cure your heart.

A person’s Emaan cannot be corrected until he corrects his heart, and the heart cannot be corrected until he corrects his tongue.

Lying, Backbiting, Slandering: these things cannot let you be pious.

Therefore the Prophet (peace be upon him) advised a Sahabi to read this Du’a (mentioned by Imam Bukhari in Adab Al-Mufrad, Hadith 660):

اللَّهُمَّ عَافِنِي مِنْ شَرِّ سَمْعِي ، وَبَصَرِي ، وَلِسَانِي ، وَقَلْبِي ، وَشَرِّ مَنِيِّي

O Allah, protect me from the evil of my hearing, my seeing, my tongue and my heart, and the evil of my sperm.)” – Meaning his sexual organ.

Also see: Sunan an-Nasa’i 5484.

 

4 – You cannot cure your heart, until you have Haya (Modesty).

We know that Ayesha (radiAllaahu anhu) is the mother of the believers. It is Haram for any man to marry the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him). Even then when the Sahaba (radiAllaahu Anhum) used to go to her to study there would be a curtain between them.

Modesty is not only limited to interaction with other people. Today’s youth thinks that if we have closed the door of our room no one can see what we are doing on our computer. Have they forgotten that Allaah sees everything?

When Luqman Al-Hakeem’s son asked him for advice, he had him write this:

O my son: If you want to sin you may do it, but only those (sins) for which you have the strength to bear the punishment. If you want to sin you may do it, but only there where Allaah cannot see you. If you want to sin you may do it, but not on Allaah’s earth. Go to a place which does not belong to Allaah.

Everything belongs to Allaah, so where will he go?

Remember when you will stand in front of Allaah, and Allaah will talk to you. No one will be able to say that I cannot speak for myself so I want to hire a lawyer. What will be the answer there? How will we face Allaah if we are not modest?

Last thing I would like to mention is:

 

5 – A heart that has Jealousy and Malice cannot be cured.

Sa’d ibn Mu’az (radiAllaahu anhu) became a Muslim at the age of 30 and died at the age of 36. The ‘Arsh of Allaah shook when he died. How many years did he spend as a Muslim? Only 6!

What did he do? After the Prophet (peace be upon him) told the Sahabah that Sa’d is one of the inhabitants of Heaven, one Sahabi decided to stay with him at his home. He spent 3 days with him and at the end of the term said that I have seen you and every good deed you do, is done by me as well. When he was about to leave Sa’d (radiAllaahu Anhu) called him and told him that I have never kept jealousy or malice in my heart against a Muslim.

Let us decide today to take all sorts of jealousy and malice out of our hearts.

This brings us to the end of this series.

May Allaah cure the diseases of our hearts and allow us to enter Jannah. He who promised Jannah to Sa’d bin Mu’az (radiAllaahu anhu) is able to gives us Jannah as well. Ameen.

 

 

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Get your Haya on, bros!

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By Ch. Hasan Saifullah

Prologue:

Do you want to enhance the purity of your soul? Do you want to overcome all the negativity around you? Do you want to stay away from all kinds of temptations and lustful desires? Well, if you do, then this article envelops a “magic word” that can save you from a million sins. You are humbly advised to memorize this word and keep reminding yourself about it every day, as it can help you achieve the above mentioned objectives. Presenting to you, a part of your faith, the magic word—“HAYA”.

Haya 101:

Let’s quickly take an overview of what Haya is all about. Understanding its basic meanings can help us become more conscious of this concept in our daily lives.

Literal meaning:

The word Haya is derived from the Arabic word Al-Hayat, meaning ‘Life’.

General meaning:

It is a conscious feeling whereby a person (usually with some good morals) experiences discomfort and uneasiness (accompanied by a sense of embarrassment), caused by ones fear of being exposed or censured by some indecent, shameful or an unworthy conduct.

Contextual meaning:

In different contexts the term Haya is often used to describe attributes such as modesty, chastity, shyness, humility, shame, honor, dignity, integrity and self-respect.

The concept of Haya in Islamic parlance:

Islamic teachings advocate a high sense of morality and modesty at all levels. The concept of Haya in the light of Islam has always been quite distinct. The most conspicuous evidence of it is that Haya has been made an indispensible part of faith. It other words: ‘where there is Haya, there is Faith and vice versa’. It is narrated by Abu Huraira that the Prophet (sallalahu ‘alaihi wasallam) declared:

“Faith consists of more than sixty branches. And Haya is a part of Faith”

[Bukhari and Muslim]

Islam demands Haya to be a core value in every believer. Every Muslim must strive to improve his/her personality according to the attributes that please Allah Almighty the most. Thus, in order to restore maximum purity in the soul, to overcome and eliminate any negativity in our characters and to refrain from all kinds of illicit temptations, one must train his/her mind and body and cautiously practice getting their Haya On. Every believer must train themselves to live in the fundamental state of Haya i.e. to remain modest and choose for themselves aloofness from temptations.

The intangible attributes of Haya:

It is often thought that Haya is only confined to how a person chooses to dress up. Modesty in dressing is just one element of being in the state of Haya. Quintessentially, Haya is a pure psychological state in which a person operates and performs his/her tasks. It helps a person to choose good over bad, to be attracted towards purity and repulse all that is impure, and to be mindful of their decisions. Haya is the drive that motivates a believer and at every step of their lives provides them with the opportunity to please Allah by shying away from bad conduct, feeling embarrassed, uncomfortable and awkward in performing or partnering indecent acts. Thus, Haya shapes up the character and personality of a believer with all that is good. As Prophet Muhammad (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) is recorded to have said:

“Haya does not bring anything except good.”

[Bukhari and Muslim]

Haya and Social Norms:

From a sociological perspective, Haya and societal norms are interlinked. Even the secular societies have some form of Haya being practiced in their daily lives. There are numerous socio-cultural factors which affect the level of Haya being practiced in the society. For example, the rural Pakhtun culture follows its strict policy over enabling maximized Haya as part of their daily dress code. Their women wear a complete head to toe covering often mocked as “shuttle cock” burqas. To their disposition it is what describes their dignity, honor and a sense of Haya. However, on the other hand a working class woman from an urban metropolis may opt for skin tight clothing along with a shawl/dupatta as a covering, and still be considered well equipped with Haya by her colleagues and the society at large.

The point of the above discussion is to prove that the concept of Haya may vary from society to society. Different countries, regions and cultures oblige by different set of social rules and norms according to their own ideals, aspirations and values. However, for the people all across the globe who proclaim to be Muslims (the ones who submit their will to Allah), Haya should not be something to be played around. Rather than looking for what level of Haya is acceptable in your culture/society, one should try to find what level of Haya our religion demands from us? After all, it is our GOD we want to please and not the people, right?

Haya for men:

Over the years, much ink has been used to elaborate the concept of Haya with reference to women folk only. We hear too much discussion about women’s Hijab. What about men’s Hijab? Well, let’s make one thing clear: Haya is as significant for men as it is for women. There could be many reasons why a lot of men these days try to aloof their selves from being known as a person with great Haya. A few common reasons are mentioned below:

1) The society has painted a person with great morals, modesty and shyness as a “sissy”! No, man likes to be called soft, sensitive or weak.

2) Shyness and modesty are often considered to be a trait of an introvert person. It is pictured as a sign of weakness.

3) Who care about Haya these days anyways? Since, we don’t even mind taking our children to watch Bollywood movies with titles such as ‘Kameenay’ and listening to songs with titles such as ‘Gandi baat’.

4) A person with good morals, modesty, chastity and shyness is considered to be ‘boring’ and ‘not a fun company’.

We must understand that Islam is not here to create difficulties for us, but it is a divine gift to humans from their Creator, to help us live our temporary lives in the best possible manner. Also, we must realize that Islam is perfect, its teachings are perfect and so whatever it gives us, we should take it happily. A Muslim without a strong sense of Haya puts his Emaan (faith) into doubt. Because how can a Muslim (the one who submits his will to God) perform an act of sin comfortably, without feeling any guilt, shame or embarrassment? It is the sense of Haya which serves as a self-accountability mechanism for every believing man or woman.

Action Plan:

We need to realize the fact that our thinking affects our attitudes; our attitudes shape up behaviors and our behaviors guide our actions, which in turn forms our personalities over a period of time. If we do not change our thinking regarding the importance of Haya in our lives today, tomorrow we should not expect our children to be highly modest and having a strong sense of Haya in them. Being Muslims; we should strive to become the epitome of Haya, so that others in our society can follow us as role models and improve their lives too. It is highly recommended to take out a notepad and list down the strengths & weaknesses in your personality. Let’s not just plan as always to improve our selves, let’s act for a change. Let’s make 2014, the year of getting our Haya On!

New Theme: #NazreinNeechay

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A person should go to university to study and learn. A person should go to Centaurus Mall to shop or to window-shop or to dine out. Simple facts of life which escape the attention of the ogling ones among the human species. They just go everywhere to ogle. Or maybe: wherever they go, they just ogle. Whichever way it is: Stop ogling, bro! Lower your gaze because #NazreinNeechay is Youth Club’s ongoing theme.

No, we’re not going around bumping into poles and people because we’ve lowered our gaze and are intently looking at the pavement. We don’t want you to do that either! Lowering your gaze is more about controlling your gaze, restraining yourself from looking at what you’re not supposed to be looking at.

The human eye is an amazing creation of Allah, infinitely more complex and intricate than any camera. Eyesight is an absolutely beautiful gift from Allah. Ask the blind if you don’t value it! The eyes are also the most discussed human organ in poetry and song lyrics (ranging from the exquisite to the downright absurd- remember Eye to Eye by Tahir Shah?)  The eyes, as they rightly say, are the gateway to the heart. That is precisely why we should be concerned about lowering our gaze. If we want our hearts to be sound and pure, rather than dirty and diseased, then there is no other option but to control our gaze! Prevention is better than cure!

The Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) said:

“The furtive glance is one of the poisoned arrows of the devil, on him be God’s curse. Whoever forsakes it for the fear of Allah, will receive from Him a faith, the sweetness of which he will find within his heart.”

(al-Haakim)

 The above Hadith gives some valuable insight into “Cupid’s arrows”.  So what happens when you are heedless and your eyes feast on everything that is available, and the arrows of the devil pierce your very being?  Sigh, the inevitable happens.  You lose out on the sweetness of faith.  Since the eyes have already committed their share of adultery, the heart, the ears, the hands and feet, and the private parts are all lined up for their opportunity to share in the sin.

Lowering the gaze is something between you and Allah.  No one except Allah would know what you are sneaking glances at.  He is observing your gaze and He is listening to your thoughts as both wander.  He, Subhanahu wa Ta’ala, says:

“Allah knows the deceit of the eyes and all that which the hearts conceal.”

(Surah Ghaafir: ayah 19)

Lowering the gaze is actually the starting point for modest behaviour.  You see, the one who can control his gaze from wandering is the one who will also be able to master his words and deeds.

The ones who lower their gaze are the ones who can truly adopt modesty- in dress, and thoughts, and words, and dealings.  There is something serene and beautiful about modest people, as they go around the day, forever conscious of Allah and the standing before Him, forever protecting their hearts and preserving the sweetness of their faith.  These are the ones who are becoming an extinct species.  These are the ones YC’s theme #NazrainNeechay is preserving and nurturing.

Use #NazreinNeechay in your Facebook posts, tweets and blog articles.  If you have something absolutely awesome and unique to tell the world about this theme, feel free to send us your entry at youthclubblog@gmail.com.

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The Inseparable Two

By Umm ‘Aisha

Bismillah.

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Our beloved Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) said: “Indeed Haya (modesty) and Iman (faith) are Companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well. (Baihaqi)

Haya and Iman- these two remain joined together like Siamese twins!

Today we see shameless and immodest acts being committed openly around us by ‘Muslims’ in ‘Islamic’ countries.  Is it a sign that the level of our Iman has decreased so much that Haya is vanishing away?

The important question is: “What does Iman or faith in Allah give us? And how does shamelessness take it away?”

Faith in Allah is something that makes us accountable to One Supreme Being;
it makes us conscious of being ‘watched’,
it strengthens our belief in the Day that is approaching,
it makes us fearful of standing in front of the Rabb of the worlds,
it gives us a goal- a goal that doesn’t just revolve around ‘wake-up, eat, drink, have fun, die- THE END’,
it makes us work for something Supreme.

To sum it up: It makes us slaves of The King who made us his inheritors of this earth.  It makes us yearn and strive to be rewarded with the most amazing award imaginable: to see Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala, to be in His Company, and to be His guests in Jannah.

Can someone with such a high aim afford to just play around all his life carelessly?  I believe not.

And this is where Haya comes in.  When you have such a high aim, such consciousness of Him, and such overwhelming thoughts about the One who owns you- you can’t dare do anything that displeases Him and takes you away from your goal.  When a Muslim realizes that his/her life is a struggle, not playful entertainment, it is then that Haya evolves and life truly begins.

Unfortunately, we appear to be living in a Dreamland where everyone is sleeping and chasing that ‘prince/princess’ of their dreams, without whom their life seems empty and worthless.

The essence of Iman has been lost, and the mission has been abandoned!

No one seems to know or care why Allah created them or what being a Muslim implies.  Had we understood the reality,  we would never have rushed behind a mirage hoping that it ends in marriage, that too in name of: ‘Half my Deen’!
In reality, how many of us have made marriage ‘all my Deen’ or ‘My only Deen’– the only thing we’re concerned about, our only aim in life!

Having said that, people may assume that I don’t regard marriage as an important part of Deen (Na’ozubillah). It’s not so!

I do believe in marriage being half of the Deen as mentioned in a famous Hadith.  I believe in marriage being a Halal way to satisfy one’s desires.  It is indeed a beautiful Sunnah that can’t be neglected.  But when you make it your center of life, the only thing you dream of, the only worry and concern that consumes you – then it does become a problem!

Having read and understood the aim of a Muslim above, understand the position of marriage by this example:

Suppose you are at a point X and you want to reach point Y, and you meet a person who also wants to reach point Y, and you feel that journey will become easier if you both started to travel together- so you both start to travel together.

So you see, that person is just a facilitator in the journey.  Just a buddy.  A means to the destination.  Not the destination.  Not the end.  And it’s not that without him/her, you can’t move ahead.  You can and must continue to travel to point Y with or without that person.

Similarly, you are here to LIVE YOUR PURPOSE.  While doing this, if you meet a person, whom you think, can assist you in living your purpose and make the journey of life smooth, you marry that person.  That’s marriage- a MEAN not an END.

Understanding this fundamental point can help to solve most of the “love affairs”, rather “lust affairs” insha Allah.