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To All Peeping Toms

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Disclaimer: This does not generalize all male species. However, if you still take offense, then clearly you have the tell-tale signs of our average peeping Tom.

A furtive, sweeping look. It has the same effect as music. You like the opening beats- you’re going to listen till the end. You like what you see- you’re going to gawk till she remains in the vicinity. And then you can’t get it out of your head.

So just keep it down. Enough said. This is not going to be a long-winded rant about restricting your visual field nor a DIY-curb-the-inner-pervert-in-you. Resisting the temptation of checking out everything that moves is human. As Nouman Ali Khan puts it- “Lower your gaze because you become less of a human every time you stare at a woman…” Ouch. Male ego sliced and butchered in a single sentence.

And when Allah says “Lower your gaze”, then it is doable all right. And guess what else happens when you ogle- apart from losing all shreds of morality that is. You get discussed on the lunch table as “the creep” who has no life. Over giggles and biryani. And no matter what you do, the name sticks.

Worse- if you are that Jami’at guy (or apparently religious looking) caught glancing at a group of girls in your university, then there is no hope for you. They crucified you a million times over in the Girls’ Common Room.

And if on some fateful day, you catch female heads turned your way-

Something must be terribly wrong with your outfit.

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Lowering your Gaze- A Guide for Dummies

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Everything that Islam tells us to do or not to do is for our benefit and many a times we can see the wisdom in those rulings. So is the case with this beautiful ruling, which is especially very relevant and crucial in these times when immodesty and lewdness is that common, and whose wisdom is so obvious – lower your gaze.

Sometimes, as a young Muslim, going through high school and college, or even afterwards, keeping your faith intact can be really difficult. I want you to recall the last time you were in one of the following situations:

You were walking on campus or in the street on a hot summer day, your eyes fell upon a half-naked beautiful woman (or man). Or you were randomly flipping through the channels on TV and came across that stunning girl in the advertisment.

At that very moment, did you immediately lower your gaze? Because if you had a problem doing so, my advice is you read this article till the end.

1. Why should we do it anyway?

Allah says:

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts…” [al-Noor 24:30]

Ibn Taymiyah said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (15/414):

Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, has enjoined us in His Book to lower the gaze, which is of two types: refraining from looking at ‘awrahs (body parts that should be covered) and refraining from looking at the site of desire.

2-  Why so much stress on it?

Because a real man doesn’t check out girls. A real man pursues a WIFE, not a girlfriend and he goes about it the right way. A real man works on lowering his gaze when beautiful women walk by. A real man keeps his interactions with women short, cordial and to the point. A real man doesn’t leer at woman – and that includes the TV, the internet and magazines. A real Muslim does not talk freely to non-mahrams just because “Hey, we’re friends”! And yes, the rules that apply to the real world apply to the virtual world also.

3- What about the sudden, unintentional glance?

It is narrated by Muslim that

Jareer bin Abdullah said: “I asked the Messenger of Allah (sallalhau alaihi wasallam) about a sudden glance, and he commanded me to avert my gaze.”

Imam Nawawi explained:

What is meant by a “sudden glance” is when a person’s glance unintentionally falls upon a non-mahram woman. There is no sin on him for the first glance, but he must avert his gaze immediately.

4- It’s not easy. Any tips?

Lowering your gaze as a young Muslim is very difficult, especially since you have immodesty, pornography, and such lewdness running rampant in this society. Even the most popular video games out there are all about money and girls!

What we need to know is that not being able to lower our gaze is not a problem, it’s just a symptom. Our problem is that of the heart; we need to lower our hearts in front of Allah before our gazes.

Here is a list of some practical suggestions to help us with us protecting our eyes:

> Work on performing the obligatory acts of worship.

> Develop a relationship with the Qur’an.

> Increase in the voluntary acts of worship.

> Keep in mind that ogling at the opposite gender is the adultery of the eye, and that should be sufficient to put us off.

> Stay away from the company that encourages you to do so.

Eyes admire, Hearts desire

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By Fareed Ahmad

I was listening to a commentary about the verses of Surah an-Noor where Allah sends down commandments, addressing the believing men and women separately:

Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and to protect their private parts..” (Surah an-Noor, ayah 30)

And for the women,

“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and to protect their private parts..” (Surah an-Noor, ayah 31)

Although these verses refer mostly to protecting our gazes from looking at the opposite sex, my mind started wandering in another direction.

Look at us, the youth. When we start staring at something, the problem starts right there and then, even if the ‘something’ is permissible such as the latest gadgets, accessories or cellphones.  The desire for obtaining that object takes root in our heart and we start pining for it, and may even resort to unlawful means to obtain in.

A young boy or girl might keep looking at some expensive items which his/her parents can`t afford.

“Oh! I want to have this.”

“ I wish I could buy that.”

Then they find ways to seek it.  They might resort to scheming or stealing or misbehaving with their parents and forcing them to buy that thing.

Advertisements of smoking and drinking can attract the youth to such an extent that they adopt this filth for the sake of style or thrill.  The problem again starts when they keep on looking intently at what is portrayed in these advertisements.

Girls watch dramas and films, and their hearts desire to wear the vulgar dresses worn by the actresses and models.

Some women waste a lot of time doing window shopping in high-end branded shops, and then quarrel with their husbands for more money, causing major disputes at home.

I can keep on giving similar examples. The point is that if we chose to ignore and look away from the thing in question, everything would remain fine. But when we keep on looking it, it becomes the centre of our life and we want to get it through hook or crook.

It is just as a wise man aptly summed up:


“What the eyes admire, the heart desires.”


Coming back to the original context in Surah an-Noor, this may be an important reason why Allah orders us to lower our gaze from the opposite gender too.  You could say that:

“When the eyes won`t admire, the heart won`t desire.”

Intently watching celebrities from the opposite gender like Hollywood Stars and legendary sports heroes engraves the love of their appearance and dressing in the hearts, which leads to fan following and ends up at Hero-worshipping. Many times people fall in love with random people whom they interact with routinely just because they are not careful about the storm of desire being stirred in the heart because of what the eyes admire.  This storm can wreak havoc, leading to extramarital affairs and widespread corruption and destruction in families.

Allah gave you two eyes and a hearts and a brain.  To see or not to see? That is the question, and the choice is yours.

The writer can be contacted at: fareedahmad_1@hotmail.com

New Theme: #NazreinNeechay

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A person should go to university to study and learn. A person should go to Centaurus Mall to shop or to window-shop or to dine out. Simple facts of life which escape the attention of the ogling ones among the human species. They just go everywhere to ogle. Or maybe: wherever they go, they just ogle. Whichever way it is: Stop ogling, bro! Lower your gaze because #NazreinNeechay is Youth Club’s ongoing theme.

No, we’re not going around bumping into poles and people because we’ve lowered our gaze and are intently looking at the pavement. We don’t want you to do that either! Lowering your gaze is more about controlling your gaze, restraining yourself from looking at what you’re not supposed to be looking at.

The human eye is an amazing creation of Allah, infinitely more complex and intricate than any camera. Eyesight is an absolutely beautiful gift from Allah. Ask the blind if you don’t value it! The eyes are also the most discussed human organ in poetry and song lyrics (ranging from the exquisite to the downright absurd- remember Eye to Eye by Tahir Shah?)  The eyes, as they rightly say, are the gateway to the heart. That is precisely why we should be concerned about lowering our gaze. If we want our hearts to be sound and pure, rather than dirty and diseased, then there is no other option but to control our gaze! Prevention is better than cure!

The Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) said:

“The furtive glance is one of the poisoned arrows of the devil, on him be God’s curse. Whoever forsakes it for the fear of Allah, will receive from Him a faith, the sweetness of which he will find within his heart.”

(al-Haakim)

 The above Hadith gives some valuable insight into “Cupid’s arrows”.  So what happens when you are heedless and your eyes feast on everything that is available, and the arrows of the devil pierce your very being?  Sigh, the inevitable happens.  You lose out on the sweetness of faith.  Since the eyes have already committed their share of adultery, the heart, the ears, the hands and feet, and the private parts are all lined up for their opportunity to share in the sin.

Lowering the gaze is something between you and Allah.  No one except Allah would know what you are sneaking glances at.  He is observing your gaze and He is listening to your thoughts as both wander.  He, Subhanahu wa Ta’ala, says:

“Allah knows the deceit of the eyes and all that which the hearts conceal.”

(Surah Ghaafir: ayah 19)

Lowering the gaze is actually the starting point for modest behaviour.  You see, the one who can control his gaze from wandering is the one who will also be able to master his words and deeds.

The ones who lower their gaze are the ones who can truly adopt modesty- in dress, and thoughts, and words, and dealings.  There is something serene and beautiful about modest people, as they go around the day, forever conscious of Allah and the standing before Him, forever protecting their hearts and preserving the sweetness of their faith.  These are the ones who are becoming an extinct species.  These are the ones YC’s theme #NazrainNeechay is preserving and nurturing.

Use #NazreinNeechay in your Facebook posts, tweets and blog articles.  If you have something absolutely awesome and unique to tell the world about this theme, feel free to send us your entry at youthclubblog@gmail.com.

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