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The Cure to Diseased Hearts

This is part 3 in a series of 3 posts under the category of:

انواع القلوب فى القرآن الكريم The Types of Hearts in the Noble Quran

There are a few simple points which can help you to check and cure your heart:

1 – Purify your intention, and a lot of these diseases will go away by the mercy of Allaah.

I would like to put only one question here for discussion: I want to do it, and you want to do it, so how do we make our intentions pure?

There are 4 ways of it:

First: If when someone praises you, you feel good, and when someone insults you, you feel bad or angry then know that there is a problem with your intention.

‘Adi ibn Arta’ said, “When one of the Companions of the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) was praised, he said in supplication to Allah:

اللهم لا تؤاخذني بما يقولون ، واجعلني خيرًا مما يظنون واغفر لي ما لا يعلمون

O Allah! Do not call me to account for what they say and forgive me for what they have no knowledge of – Allaahumma laa tu’aakhithnee bimaa yaqooloona, waghfir lee maa laa ya’lamoona

Reference: Al-Bukhari, Al-’Adabul-Mufrad no. 761. See Al-Albani, Sahih Al-’Adabul-Mufrad (no. 585). The wording is slightly different to the above  and is perhaps taken from another narration. Allaahu ‘Alam.

And whoever said it said the truth:

If people would know how sinful I am they would not even want to say Salam to me, they wouldn’t even want to sit near me. But O Allaah it is your Rahmah (mercy) that you have hidden my sins.

It is narrated in Saheeh Muslim from Miqdaad (may Allah be pleased with him) that a man began to praise ‘Uthmaan (may Allah be pleased with him) so Miqdaad proceeded (towards him) and went down on his knees and began to throw the gravel on his face. So, ‘Uthmaan (may Allah be pleased with him) said: ‘What’s the matter with you?’ So, he said: Indeed, the Messenger of Allah (sallAllaahu alaihi wa sallam) said:

“When you see those who praise people (to their faces), then throw dirt in their faces.”

Muslim in Az-Zuhd War-Raqaaiq…(Vol.4, No.3002, page 2297)

A person who loves to be praised can never be pious in his life.

 

Second: Do a good deed and forget it.

A sincere person hides his good deeds just like he hides his sins.

Remember this principle: In the worldly life, everything that has a witness is valued. But in the sight of Allaah, the most valuable deeds are the ones whom no one has witnessed on earth.

 

Third: Give the best of your things in charity.

Today when we want to gather charity, we have to give all the proofs to a person to convince him. People have forgotten that whoever spends in charity his wealth does not decrease, but only increases!

But the Sahabah were on a different mindset.

Imam Ahmad reported that Anas bin Malik said, “Abu Talhah had more property than any other among the Ansar in Al-Madinah, and the most beloved of his property to him was Bayruha’ garden, which was in front of the (Messenger’s) Masjid. Sometimes, Allah’s Messenger used to go to the garden and drink its fresh water.” Anas added, “When these verses were revealed:

لَن تَنَالُوا الْبِرَّ حَتَّىٰ تُنفِقُوا مِمَّا تُحِبُّونَ

(By no means shall you attain Al-Birr unless You spend of that which you love,)

Abu Talhah said, “O Allah’s Messenger! Allah says,

(By no means shall you attain Al-Birr, unless you spend of that which you love;) No doubt, Bayruha’ garden is the most beloved of all my property to me. So I want to give it in charity in Allah’s cause, and I expect its reward and compensation from Allah. O Allah’s Messenger! Spend it where Allah makes you think is feasible.” On that, Allah’s Messenger said,

(Well-done! It is profitable property, it is profitable property. I have heard what you have said, and I think it would be proper if you gave it to your kith and kin.)

Abu Talhah said, `I will do so, O Allah’s Messenger.’ Then Abu Talhah distributed that garden among his relatives and cousins.”

This Hadith was recorded in the Two Sahihs.

 

Fourth: While working for a cause, if a person keeps working whether someone praises him or scolds him then that is a sign of sincerity. But if he works only when he is praised and sits down when he is scolded then he is not doing it with sincerity.

May Allaah allow us all to purify our intentions and make them sincerely for Him.

 

2 – Start respecting the scholars if you want your heart to be cured.

Ibn Al-Qayyim Rahimahullaah used to say that the religion is taught by 2 things: The mosque and the person in the mosque.

The day you get disgusted by the mosque or the scholar, then that day you have lost your Emaan.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said a beautiful thing (mentioned in Sahih Bukhari/Muslim) that out of the 7 people who will get the shade of Allaah’s Throne on the Day of Judgment, one is he whose heart is attached to the mosque.

What does this mean? This means that when he prays one prayer he is constantly waiting for the next one. This Hadith is about a person who stays outside the mosque. So what about those who dedicate their whole day to the mosque and stay in it all the time?

In fact I would like to say, if a person takes even a single step towards a scholar Allaah can grant him Jannah for this. You must be thinking this is a big claim? It is narrated in Sahih Al-Jami’ that a person did 99 murders. He then went to a priest asking if he could be forgiven. The priest said no there is no forgiveness for you. So he killed the priest as well. Then he went to a pious person who told him that yes you can be forgiven but for future you must leave this place and go to another town where there are pious people of Allaah. He was on his way when he passed away. Allaah sent angels to take his soul. The angels started arguing whether he would be an inhabitant of Heaven or Hell. Allaah sent another angel to measure the distance from where he had started to where he was going. If he was closer to his destination he would be forgiven but if he was closer to the starting point, he will go to Hell. Allaah ordered the earth to shrink and upon measuring he was only a span (approximately 9 inches) closer to the pious people and was forgiven because of this (ONLY a step!).

So until you have a good relation with the true scholars, you can never remove the diseases from your heart.

 

3 – If you can’t guard your tongue, you cannot cure your heart.

A person’s Emaan cannot be corrected until he corrects his heart, and the heart cannot be corrected until he corrects his tongue.

Lying, Backbiting, Slandering: these things cannot let you be pious.

Therefore the Prophet (peace be upon him) advised a Sahabi to read this Du’a (mentioned by Imam Bukhari in Adab Al-Mufrad, Hadith 660):

اللَّهُمَّ عَافِنِي مِنْ شَرِّ سَمْعِي ، وَبَصَرِي ، وَلِسَانِي ، وَقَلْبِي ، وَشَرِّ مَنِيِّي

O Allah, protect me from the evil of my hearing, my seeing, my tongue and my heart, and the evil of my sperm.)” – Meaning his sexual organ.

Also see: Sunan an-Nasa’i 5484.

 

4 – You cannot cure your heart, until you have Haya (Modesty).

We know that Ayesha (radiAllaahu anhu) is the mother of the believers. It is Haram for any man to marry the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him). Even then when the Sahaba (radiAllaahu Anhum) used to go to her to study there would be a curtain between them.

Modesty is not only limited to interaction with other people. Today’s youth thinks that if we have closed the door of our room no one can see what we are doing on our computer. Have they forgotten that Allaah sees everything?

When Luqman Al-Hakeem’s son asked him for advice, he had him write this:

O my son: If you want to sin you may do it, but only those (sins) for which you have the strength to bear the punishment. If you want to sin you may do it, but only there where Allaah cannot see you. If you want to sin you may do it, but not on Allaah’s earth. Go to a place which does not belong to Allaah.

Everything belongs to Allaah, so where will he go?

Remember when you will stand in front of Allaah, and Allaah will talk to you. No one will be able to say that I cannot speak for myself so I want to hire a lawyer. What will be the answer there? How will we face Allaah if we are not modest?

Last thing I would like to mention is:

 

5 – A heart that has Jealousy and Malice cannot be cured.

Sa’d ibn Mu’az (radiAllaahu anhu) became a Muslim at the age of 30 and died at the age of 36. The ‘Arsh of Allaah shook when he died. How many years did he spend as a Muslim? Only 6!

What did he do? After the Prophet (peace be upon him) told the Sahabah that Sa’d is one of the inhabitants of Heaven, one Sahabi decided to stay with him at his home. He spent 3 days with him and at the end of the term said that I have seen you and every good deed you do, is done by me as well. When he was about to leave Sa’d (radiAllaahu Anhu) called him and told him that I have never kept jealousy or malice in my heart against a Muslim.

Let us decide today to take all sorts of jealousy and malice out of our hearts.

This brings us to the end of this series.

May Allaah cure the diseases of our hearts and allow us to enter Jannah. He who promised Jannah to Sa’d bin Mu’az (radiAllaahu anhu) is able to gives us Jannah as well. Ameen.

 

 

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Chapter 18: The Waning Dusk (series)

 

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Myth: It’s not that big a deal.

Surely, those who like that lewdness spreads among the believers, for them there is painful punishment in this world and the Hereafter. Allah knows, and you do not know...  O you who believe, do not follow the footsteps of Satan. Whoever follows the footsteps of Satan, (should know that) he orders (one to commit) shameful acts and evil deeds. (24:19-21)

More often than not, you will feel like a pawn being played in a game where you do not know the rules. There can be two interpretations of the first verse. 1) People spreading immorality in the society. 2) People talking about shameless topics just so everyone gets used to it. There are shows about what kind of dress that celebrity was wearing on that award ceremony. Special news segments for your updates on who’s dating who and who just had a break-up. In fact, I get free celebrity gossip alerts on my phone from my service provider. And then you see million likes and shares on jokes that are all shades of dirty– some even have a religious context to them.

There’s a whole industry behind our daily dose of entertainment. It has entered our homes, our phones, the books we read and has messed up our heads so bad that we shrug it off saying “It’s no big deal”. And when you comment on how classics are a dying breed, you get to hear “What are you? Last century?“. Polluted literature is a major concern. There are people who might still refuse to watch shamelessness on television but they won’t be as cautious about it when they are reading it. “So long as I’m not watching it… reading is no biggie…” But the truth is– the exquisite graphic detail that goes into writing adult content is more damaging to the mind, hands down. Point being, it’s not safe anywhere. And this is where the definition of taqwa comes in- it is akin to the way you protect yourself while walking on a path that has thorns on it.

Also, when I was writing this post, I recalled all the books and movies I had recommended to friends and wondered how acceptable they were on a scale of 10. And by acceptable, I mean the prophetic standards, not the PG ratings that keep changing with time. The results weren’t gratifying. We need to be careful with what we endorse directly or indirectly, lest we become one of those who spread lewdness among the believers.

These verses address both groups of people: those who spread vulgarity (and they will meet a painful end) and those who become victims of the virus.

Notice how the status-quo changes in the last verse. Allah says “Do not follow the footsteps of Satan” which tells you that when you are in the follower stage, you have the authority and will power to not proceed with the temptation. Then He says “Whoever follows him, he (Satan) orders shameful acts.” Now that you have started following, Satan has the upper hand. This just explains our many addictions. You had the option to watch or not watch that great TV series people in your college kept talking about. You had the option to not watch that latest Hollywood hit. But now that you’ve hit Play, you’re too caught in the story-line to stop. And you will amuse yourself to death season after season exposing yourself to all kinds of awfulness. The more indecent the show, the more popular it gets. Similar is the case with a trashy novel. You won’t put it down. Or can’t.

Solution-? Your imaan shall set you free.

“Indeed prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing.” (29:45)

Need I go any further? We are in the middle of the most blessed month that’s here for us to change for the better. If you’ve been avoiding the tube in this holy month, silently congratulate yourself on surviving thus far and carry it on till the same time next month. As the saying goes, “You are to worship Allah, not Ramadan.”

Calm Down- Its Nothing!

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We will try to describe the average young Pakistani in today’s world. (This may apply to all youngsters around the world) + (This could apply to females but for the sake of this article, we will use ‘he’ as most of our interaction on the streets is with the guys!)

If you feel you can relate to this, then please read the article till the end.

Reflect upon this deeply. Remember, Allah knows us better than we know ourselves- and the first step to correcting ourselves is to realise where we’re going wrong!

We have observed that your average youngster will sin so much on a daily level, that we fear, it will come back to bite him later in his life and definitely in the hereafter. No matter how menial it may seem at the time, this is divinely guaranteed to happen.

“..And whoever does an atom’s weight of evil will see it.”
Surat Az-Zalzalah (The Earthquake) – سورة الزلزلة 99.8

The moment you step outside your house, if you see a female dressed in bright clothing, you will crane your neck to see her better. You’ll want to see her face and the whole of her. Just a couple of seconds- that’s all, before you move on..

Is this you?

When your parents call you and ask you to do them a ‘favour’, for example, “Betaa, waapsi par thora sa doodh le anaa,” (Get some milk on the way home), you will  most probably mutter “ufff” or “oho” or wear a frown on your face. Don’t your parents realise that the shops are completely out of your way, and that you already have a lot on your mind?

Whilst you are walking towards your school or college, your friends who are in a car, drive up beside you offering a lift. You jump in. There is loud music blaring through the sound system. There are swear words in the song. There are detailed lyrics describing the body of a woman. You and your friends listen attentively and nod your heads in approval throughout the whole journey. You’re having a good time chilling, that’s all.

Does this happen to you?

Whilst playing cricket or football on the streets or on a pitch, a slightly mistaken decision takes place and for some reason, it boils your blood, gets you very angry and makes you lash out. Long before you know it you begin swearing at your opponents, followed by flying fists. You need to teach these kids a lesson. You need to teach them who’s boss.

Recently, you’ve gotten to know this girl from school or college/university. You started off with being ‘just friends’ a few months ago, but now strong feelings have developed. You exchange text messages all night long. You are secretly speaking to her on the phone, trying to keep your voice low, so that your parents do not hear you. You send her Facebook messages. You sometimes use whatsapp or viber. The nature of these messages, becomes increasingly ‘flirtatious’. What began as innocent compliments like ‘you have amazing eyes,’ have now been upgraded to ‘that top you were wearing earlier got my heart racing ‘ and so on and so forth…

Because we don’t consider most of the things above as ‘sins’, we increasingly justify our actions with excuses like:

 ‘That was only a 2-second lustful glance’,

or

‘I’m listening to music but not producing it’

or

‘I’m very close to a girl from college but at least I don’t have a physically intimate relationship with her’,

or

‘all I said was ‘uff’ to my parents, I’m not exactly swearing at them or abusing them physically’,

or

‘Ok I get angry during matches, but I’m not spilling blood and it’s not anger…it’s passion!’.

We all have a thousand excuses ready at a split second, don’t we?

Yes, indeed, you could argue all the above but think about it for a moment …are they not still SINS?!

And if you multiply these daily, weekly, monthly and for years, will they not add up? Don’t these so called small sins lead to major ones? Don’t they create a habit so bad, that it’s almost impossible to rid yourself of them?

The above were just a small fraction of potential sins that the average youth commit today; there are many many more that we tend to overlook.

After going through the list, do think about all the actions that you engage in daily. Maybe there are certain acts you commit, which you genuinely do not consider as a sin or a ‘Gunnah’, but which fall into the category. The only way you could identify if something is an error in the sight of your Creator is by seeking knowledge about that act, and by studying religion. Knowledge is truly the only way to dispel darkness.

To conclude, if you have realized that you have committed way too many sins and want to change but your mind keeps telling you that it is too late (and that you’ve gone too far) then do not worry. Satan, as man’s enemy,  is making you feel helpless and defeated. Take up the offer of repentance that Allah gives to you with open arms, regardless of what your mind tells you. Sincere tawbah (repentance) can help you inshaAllah. Take strength from the following powerful Hadith  gives great hope for all of us:

Allah, the Almighty, has said:

“O Son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O Son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O Son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins as great as the earth, and were you then to face Me ascribing no partners to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as it!” (Hadith Qudsi)

Sincerely,the YC Street Dawah team.

Of good company and positive attitudes

This post is an anonymous entry sent in by one of our readers for the theme #Sinless. We pray that Allah keeps the writer steadfast on her own journey.

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How do people view practicing Muslims these days? Outdated? Orthodox? Old-school? Of course!

I mean, just imagine! How can those people live without listening to music? I can’t even picture myself sitting alone and not plugging my earphones into my ears (to listen to the latest beats).

And then there’s the whole covering up issue.  Personally I believe that the only modesty is that of the gaze- don’t stare, that’s all. These Abaya-clad girls are usually looked more keenly upon. Obviously they invite more glances. How can they claim to be modest when they stand out like that? How are they even comfortable being inspected so?  You can’t talk, walk, or act like a normal human being in that kind of dress- completely out of the question!

There’s so much in this world alone; so much to see, so much to do- so little time (and money). You are obliged to earn by whatever means you can. How can you possibly make time for the daily prayers, and that too 5 times a day, what with your otherwise hectic schedule?

Then there’s these Maulvis… Nothing but a bunch of the most deviant people imaginable. All they do is impose a new fatwa every now and then- make life hard for the rest of us.  And then they have the audacity to plead about immodesty in the community. I mean they should just focus on themselves. I’m fine the way I am. I don’t need someone dictating my life!


Is this you? I don’t know about you, but this is definitely me.

I’m sorry I’m mistaken.

This WAS definitely me.

Practicing religion to the old me was just like sticking to the most frustrating restrictions one could possibly think of. And I’m not the only young person I know who had this problem- so did most of the other young people I knew.

It was a great blessing that Allah blessed me with some amazing friends who were practical examples of people who practice religion, but remain down-to-earth and ‘normal’ at the same time. Pretty amazing, right? LOL. They would talk, walk and act normal. They had fun. They were fun to be around. And their positive outlook on life helped solve many of MY problems too!

They somehow managed to live without listening to the kind of messed up music that is popular nowadays. They prayed five times a day in spite of their busy routines. They weren’t modest about their gaze alone, but also in the way they dressed.

And I could not do anything but also get inspired! Unbelievable but true- all you need to do is spend some time in good company yourself to understand this.

The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said,

A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.”[Sunan Abu Dawud: 4833]

Yeah! My company did change the way I viewed the world. My heart started to be more inclined towards Allah and His religion. I wanted to find the source of this goodness- I wanted to be one of them. I started perfecting my own Salah. And as it is mentioned in the Quraan:-

“Indeed Salah stops you from Immodesty and Munkar (That which is forbidden)” [Surah Al-Ankaboot, Ayah: 43]

My prayers helped me to  strive even further and take more steps towards my Lord. It felt like a relief when I wore my hijab for the first time in front of my male cousins. Believe it or not, it felt better than seeing myself in front of the mirror, dressed to perfection. I gave up music slowly and turned towards Quraan. It did feel better than that temporary happiness that would blow my ears away through those meaningless lyrics. These changes were not abrupt. It took time to make them impact my heart and mind.

But there was no other option for me when all of these things made complete sense to me. No ifs, no buts. The way forward was obvious.

Only then did I understand the importance of Hijab, giving up music, praying five times a day with the utmost devotion to Allah and doing all else that was required by my religion. They all made sense now that I was sincerely tuning into Allah’s commands.  But that only happened once I had decided that I wanted to understand-  with a true and receptive heart. Temptations struck me from all sides.  I surrounded myself with an even tighter circle of strong, righteous friends.

And even after that, the struggle was not over.

This struggle won’t ever be over as it is not possible for anyone to be completely sinless. The Prophet [Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him] said:

 “All human beings without exception are sinful, but the best sinners are those who repent the most.” [Tirmidhi]

But it’s definitely something worth striving for, especially with the help of good company. It’s time we all took out a moment to reflect. Allah is always ready to forgive. Can we expect any better?

To All Peeping Toms

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Disclaimer: This does not generalize all male species. However, if you still take offense, then clearly you have the tell-tale signs of our average peeping Tom.

A furtive, sweeping look. It has the same effect as music. You like the opening beats- you’re going to listen till the end. You like what you see- you’re going to gawk till she remains in the vicinity. And then you can’t get it out of your head.

So just keep it down. Enough said. This is not going to be a long-winded rant about restricting your visual field nor a DIY-curb-the-inner-pervert-in-you. Resisting the temptation of checking out everything that moves is human. As Nouman Ali Khan puts it- “Lower your gaze because you become less of a human every time you stare at a woman…” Ouch. Male ego sliced and butchered in a single sentence.

And when Allah says “Lower your gaze”, then it is doable all right. And guess what else happens when you ogle- apart from losing all shreds of morality that is. You get discussed on the lunch table as “the creep” who has no life. Over giggles and biryani. And no matter what you do, the name sticks.

Worse- if you are that Jami’at guy (or apparently religious looking) caught glancing at a group of girls in your university, then there is no hope for you. They crucified you a million times over in the Girls’ Common Room.

And if on some fateful day, you catch female heads turned your way-

Something must be terribly wrong with your outfit.

Get your Haya on, bros!

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By Ch. Hasan Saifullah

Prologue:

Do you want to enhance the purity of your soul? Do you want to overcome all the negativity around you? Do you want to stay away from all kinds of temptations and lustful desires? Well, if you do, then this article envelops a “magic word” that can save you from a million sins. You are humbly advised to memorize this word and keep reminding yourself about it every day, as it can help you achieve the above mentioned objectives. Presenting to you, a part of your faith, the magic word—“HAYA”.

Haya 101:

Let’s quickly take an overview of what Haya is all about. Understanding its basic meanings can help us become more conscious of this concept in our daily lives.

Literal meaning:

The word Haya is derived from the Arabic word Al-Hayat, meaning ‘Life’.

General meaning:

It is a conscious feeling whereby a person (usually with some good morals) experiences discomfort and uneasiness (accompanied by a sense of embarrassment), caused by ones fear of being exposed or censured by some indecent, shameful or an unworthy conduct.

Contextual meaning:

In different contexts the term Haya is often used to describe attributes such as modesty, chastity, shyness, humility, shame, honor, dignity, integrity and self-respect.

The concept of Haya in Islamic parlance:

Islamic teachings advocate a high sense of morality and modesty at all levels. The concept of Haya in the light of Islam has always been quite distinct. The most conspicuous evidence of it is that Haya has been made an indispensible part of faith. It other words: ‘where there is Haya, there is Faith and vice versa’. It is narrated by Abu Huraira that the Prophet (sallalahu ‘alaihi wasallam) declared:

“Faith consists of more than sixty branches. And Haya is a part of Faith”

[Bukhari and Muslim]

Islam demands Haya to be a core value in every believer. Every Muslim must strive to improve his/her personality according to the attributes that please Allah Almighty the most. Thus, in order to restore maximum purity in the soul, to overcome and eliminate any negativity in our characters and to refrain from all kinds of illicit temptations, one must train his/her mind and body and cautiously practice getting their Haya On. Every believer must train themselves to live in the fundamental state of Haya i.e. to remain modest and choose for themselves aloofness from temptations.

The intangible attributes of Haya:

It is often thought that Haya is only confined to how a person chooses to dress up. Modesty in dressing is just one element of being in the state of Haya. Quintessentially, Haya is a pure psychological state in which a person operates and performs his/her tasks. It helps a person to choose good over bad, to be attracted towards purity and repulse all that is impure, and to be mindful of their decisions. Haya is the drive that motivates a believer and at every step of their lives provides them with the opportunity to please Allah by shying away from bad conduct, feeling embarrassed, uncomfortable and awkward in performing or partnering indecent acts. Thus, Haya shapes up the character and personality of a believer with all that is good. As Prophet Muhammad (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) is recorded to have said:

“Haya does not bring anything except good.”

[Bukhari and Muslim]

Haya and Social Norms:

From a sociological perspective, Haya and societal norms are interlinked. Even the secular societies have some form of Haya being practiced in their daily lives. There are numerous socio-cultural factors which affect the level of Haya being practiced in the society. For example, the rural Pakhtun culture follows its strict policy over enabling maximized Haya as part of their daily dress code. Their women wear a complete head to toe covering often mocked as “shuttle cock” burqas. To their disposition it is what describes their dignity, honor and a sense of Haya. However, on the other hand a working class woman from an urban metropolis may opt for skin tight clothing along with a shawl/dupatta as a covering, and still be considered well equipped with Haya by her colleagues and the society at large.

The point of the above discussion is to prove that the concept of Haya may vary from society to society. Different countries, regions and cultures oblige by different set of social rules and norms according to their own ideals, aspirations and values. However, for the people all across the globe who proclaim to be Muslims (the ones who submit their will to Allah), Haya should not be something to be played around. Rather than looking for what level of Haya is acceptable in your culture/society, one should try to find what level of Haya our religion demands from us? After all, it is our GOD we want to please and not the people, right?

Haya for men:

Over the years, much ink has been used to elaborate the concept of Haya with reference to women folk only. We hear too much discussion about women’s Hijab. What about men’s Hijab? Well, let’s make one thing clear: Haya is as significant for men as it is for women. There could be many reasons why a lot of men these days try to aloof their selves from being known as a person with great Haya. A few common reasons are mentioned below:

1) The society has painted a person with great morals, modesty and shyness as a “sissy”! No, man likes to be called soft, sensitive or weak.

2) Shyness and modesty are often considered to be a trait of an introvert person. It is pictured as a sign of weakness.

3) Who care about Haya these days anyways? Since, we don’t even mind taking our children to watch Bollywood movies with titles such as ‘Kameenay’ and listening to songs with titles such as ‘Gandi baat’.

4) A person with good morals, modesty, chastity and shyness is considered to be ‘boring’ and ‘not a fun company’.

We must understand that Islam is not here to create difficulties for us, but it is a divine gift to humans from their Creator, to help us live our temporary lives in the best possible manner. Also, we must realize that Islam is perfect, its teachings are perfect and so whatever it gives us, we should take it happily. A Muslim without a strong sense of Haya puts his Emaan (faith) into doubt. Because how can a Muslim (the one who submits his will to God) perform an act of sin comfortably, without feeling any guilt, shame or embarrassment? It is the sense of Haya which serves as a self-accountability mechanism for every believing man or woman.

Action Plan:

We need to realize the fact that our thinking affects our attitudes; our attitudes shape up behaviors and our behaviors guide our actions, which in turn forms our personalities over a period of time. If we do not change our thinking regarding the importance of Haya in our lives today, tomorrow we should not expect our children to be highly modest and having a strong sense of Haya in them. Being Muslims; we should strive to become the epitome of Haya, so that others in our society can follow us as role models and improve their lives too. It is highly recommended to take out a notepad and list down the strengths & weaknesses in your personality. Let’s not just plan as always to improve our selves, let’s act for a change. Let’s make 2014, the year of getting our Haya On!

New Theme: #NazreinNeechay

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A person should go to university to study and learn. A person should go to Centaurus Mall to shop or to window-shop or to dine out. Simple facts of life which escape the attention of the ogling ones among the human species. They just go everywhere to ogle. Or maybe: wherever they go, they just ogle. Whichever way it is: Stop ogling, bro! Lower your gaze because #NazreinNeechay is Youth Club’s ongoing theme.

No, we’re not going around bumping into poles and people because we’ve lowered our gaze and are intently looking at the pavement. We don’t want you to do that either! Lowering your gaze is more about controlling your gaze, restraining yourself from looking at what you’re not supposed to be looking at.

The human eye is an amazing creation of Allah, infinitely more complex and intricate than any camera. Eyesight is an absolutely beautiful gift from Allah. Ask the blind if you don’t value it! The eyes are also the most discussed human organ in poetry and song lyrics (ranging from the exquisite to the downright absurd- remember Eye to Eye by Tahir Shah?)  The eyes, as they rightly say, are the gateway to the heart. That is precisely why we should be concerned about lowering our gaze. If we want our hearts to be sound and pure, rather than dirty and diseased, then there is no other option but to control our gaze! Prevention is better than cure!

The Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) said:

“The furtive glance is one of the poisoned arrows of the devil, on him be God’s curse. Whoever forsakes it for the fear of Allah, will receive from Him a faith, the sweetness of which he will find within his heart.”

(al-Haakim)

 The above Hadith gives some valuable insight into “Cupid’s arrows”.  So what happens when you are heedless and your eyes feast on everything that is available, and the arrows of the devil pierce your very being?  Sigh, the inevitable happens.  You lose out on the sweetness of faith.  Since the eyes have already committed their share of adultery, the heart, the ears, the hands and feet, and the private parts are all lined up for their opportunity to share in the sin.

Lowering the gaze is something between you and Allah.  No one except Allah would know what you are sneaking glances at.  He is observing your gaze and He is listening to your thoughts as both wander.  He, Subhanahu wa Ta’ala, says:

“Allah knows the deceit of the eyes and all that which the hearts conceal.”

(Surah Ghaafir: ayah 19)

Lowering the gaze is actually the starting point for modest behaviour.  You see, the one who can control his gaze from wandering is the one who will also be able to master his words and deeds.

The ones who lower their gaze are the ones who can truly adopt modesty- in dress, and thoughts, and words, and dealings.  There is something serene and beautiful about modest people, as they go around the day, forever conscious of Allah and the standing before Him, forever protecting their hearts and preserving the sweetness of their faith.  These are the ones who are becoming an extinct species.  These are the ones YC’s theme #NazrainNeechay is preserving and nurturing.

Use #NazreinNeechay in your Facebook posts, tweets and blog articles.  If you have something absolutely awesome and unique to tell the world about this theme, feel free to send us your entry at youthclubblog@gmail.com.

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