Marriage is a colorful artwork gifted to you by Allah, specially designed for you to find repose in. It is an institution where real love is nurtured for the family to bask in its warmth and light. It is the building where the foundation of future is laid in the present. It is falling in love with the same person over and over again each day. Yes, over and over again with that beautiful creation of Allah with whom you sign the contract under His Eyes while you say, “Qabool Hai” (“I do”). And, this bond is meant to give you sukoon (tranquility) which in itself is one of the greatest blessings of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala.
Well, isn’t it ironic then to see that most of the marriages that take place these days turn out with negative results! All the dreams get smashed in one go and turn into a nightmare. The number of couples who can say that they are living in sukoon (tranquility) has reduced drastically. Every second person you bump into these days seems to talk about their marriage related woes. The reason is often plain and simple: being away from the Qur’an and Sunnah thereby incurring Allah’s wrath in all the affairs including those of marriage. How can a journey that starts with disobeying Allah and displeasing Him be smooth and enjoyable?
If you are among those who are already married but did so while having crossed the limits set by Allah then know that the doors of repentance are still open and Allah will make easy your affairs if you turn to Him in sincerity. And, if you are among those who are either looking for a spouse or counting the days left to your wedding, and you want to see unlimited blessings in your wedding, then read on carefully.
1. Check your intentions
Is it for the sake of Allah that you are taking this decision i.e., to safeguard yourself from Haram while wanting your wishes to be fulfilled in a Halal manner?
2. Plan it simple
If you’ve already ticked the check box about your intention then receive the glad tidings of Allah’s promise and know that Allah never breaks His promise! Now, plan your marriage and get your parents and the parents of your potential spouse on board for this noble cause of simple Nikah. Be sure that it is going to be in accordance with the Sunnah of the Prophet (may Allah exalt his mention).
3. Be strict and firm
When it comes to the limits of Allah, be strict and firm. Don’t compromise with regards to the issue of inter mixing of opposite genders. Ensure that there will not be extravagance. You may already know that the spendthrifts are the brothers of Shaytan. Say a big “No” to music. Brothers, shaving beard isn’t a good idea either. Sisters, be cautious of long hours of make up lest you should miss your Salah and you needn’t even boast about your Mahr.
4. Rely on Allah alone
If you are of those who have always lowered your gaze, given charity, offered voluntary prayers, fasted much then Insha Allah the time is near when you will peacefully lock your eyes with your spouse without any hindrance, get the provisions ceaselessly, find the absolute tranquility and enjoy the lovely relationship with her/him; but no matter what, you must always remember to rely on Allah alone without associating others for asking help in any of your affair. You must trust His Perfect Planning and His Perfect Timing. So, make sure that you begin the preparation for a journey filled with abundant blessings, a journey where the desired destination is always Jannatul Firdaus, and the eyes remain transfixed on the prize.
Let the journey begin! Bismillah.